Childhood Abuse Recovery

Childhood Abuse Recovery

You have been victimized by a terrible wrong. During your childhood, the time you were most vulnerable, instead of being protected, helped, and comforted you were abused. Most likely you were abused by someone who should have been trustworthy—a family member, a teacher, a neighbor, a coach, a pastor, a friend. Instead of being protected you were violated. You were treated with malice. Someone used, misused, and took advantage of you. Now you are wondering if recovery is possible.

The simple answer to that question is YES, recovery is possible. You already know you can’t just snap your fingers and make everything all better. Here are two important truths to keep in mind: You are not alone, and there is hope.

Your recovery will be a process of learning and remembering those two truths, not just once, but over and over. Think about how bread gets made. It must be kneaded so that the yeast goes through the whole loaf. These two truths must be kneaded into who you are until they work through every part of you. The working of these truths into the deepest part of you takes time. The damage you suffered may have been done in one or more terrible moments; the healing and the restoration unfolds at a human pace. It unfolds at your pace. It unfolds as part of your story, and it unfolds over time.
There are three broad categories of child abuse:

  • verbal abuse: If you were verbally abused, someone whose words should have been helpful and kind instead demeaned you and assaulted you.
  • physical abuse: If you were physically abused, someone (perhaps a parent or another authority figure) attacked you and hurt you.
  • sexual abuse: If you were sexually abused, someone used you and violated an intimate part of who you are.

Your Identity is Bigger Than Your Abuse

Abuse feels like an experience that has stamped you and has the final word on your identity. But the truth is that you make up your own identity. No matter what terrible atrocities happened to you, they are not your identity. Your identity as a person is far deeper than the abuse you suffered.

Your Story is Bigger Than Your Abuse

Experiencing support and love will give you the courage to see that the story of your life is bigger than your suffering. What happened to you is not the last word on who you are and where your life is going. It’s a significant part of your story, but it’s not the most significant part of your story. It’s only one part of the new story of your life that you are writing.

Redeeming Your Story

The abuse you suffered is part of the stage upon which your life choices will now take place. It’s out of the choices you are facing right now that great good can come. That doesn’t mean that you will forget the evil done to you. Martin Luther King never forgot the evils of racism. It was the reason he started a movement that changed our country. Candy Lightner did not forget that her thirteen year old daughter was killed by a drunk driver. Her daughter’s death became the impetus for forming MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving), an organization that works to stop drunk driving.

NewPath is here to listen to your story without judgement and help you create the identity all your own!
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